When You Don't Feel Loving

When You Don't Feel Loving "Let love be your highest goal." (1 Corinthians 14:1). As none of us is perfect, most of us have an issue of one kind or another. Probably my biggest issue was being afraid to love, which came from childhood hurts. A friend recently asked me if I ever still feel afraid to love and I said not very often but sometimes I do. "What do you do when you feel this way?" he asked to which I replied, "I do the loving thing." Nobody feels loving all the time, but we can always do the loving thing if we so choose. People who choose otherwise usually end up driving love away. I've seen this happen and I'm sure you have too. Jesus never told us how we should or shouldn't feel … he just told us how to act. Sure, it is important to recognize and acknowledge our feelings. Not to do so is to be in denial. However, it is equally important not to allow our feelings to control us. That can be childish and immature. But rather, we need to be in control of our feelings and regardless of what we feel, always do the right thing, the loving thing. This is a mark of maturity. Suggested prayer: "Dear God, no matter what situation I am in nor how I feel, please help me to be like Jesus and always do the loving thing—even if this includes tough love where such is needed. Thank you for hearing and answering my prayer. Gratefully, in Jesus' name, amen." Daily Encounter

RIP MY BELOVED WIFE YORETA KUSHARIANI

her love is as gentle
as freshly fallen snow,
her peace is the quiet place
our hearts can go

HAPPY WANDERER

MEMORIES THRU THE LENSES

THREE PHILOSOPHIES OF LIFE

Three Metaphysical Moods
by Peter Kreeft - Ignatius Press Books

Heidegger begins question: ''Why is there anything rather than nothing?
He speaks of three moods that raise this great question. They are three metaphysical moods, three moods that reveal not just the feelings of the individual but also the meanings of being. And these three are the three metaphysical moods that give rise to the three philosophies of life that we find in Ecclesiastes, Job, and Song of Songs. Heidegger says,

"Why is there anything rather than nothing?"...

Many men never encounter this question, if by encounter we mean not merely to hear and read about it as an interrogative formulation but to ask the question, that is, to bring it about, to raise it, to feel its inevitability.

And yet each of us is grazed at least once, perhaps more than once, by the hidden power of this question, even if he is not aware of what is happening to him. The question looms in moments of great despair, when things tend to lose all their weight and all meaning becomes obscured. Perhaps it will strike but once like a muffled bell that rings into our life and gradually dies away. It is present in moments of rejoicing, when all the things around us are transfigured and seem to be there for the first time, as if it might be easier to think they arc not than to understand that they are and are as they are. The question is upon us in boredom, when we are equally removed from despair and joy, and everything about us seems so hopelessly commonplace that we no longer care whether anything is or is not--and with this the question "Why is there anything rather than nothing?" is evoked in a particular form.

But this question may be asked expressly, or, unrecognized as a question, it may merely pass through our lives like a brief gust of wind.

Despair is Job's mood. His suffering is not only bodily but also spiritual. What has he to look forward to except death? He has lost everything, even God--especially God, it seems.

Joy is the mood of love, young love, new love, "falling in love". That is the wonder in Song of Songs: that the beloved should be; that life should be; that anything, now all lit by the new light of love, should be--as mysterious a glory as it was to job a mysterious burden.

Boredom is the mood of Ecciesiastes. It is a modern mood. Indeed, there is no word for it in any ancient language! In this mood, there is neither a reason to die, as in Job, nor a reason to live, as in Song of Songs. This is the deepest pit of all.

What is Psychology

Psychology: the science of the mind

Psychology is the science of the mind. The human mind is the most complex machine on Earth. It is the source of all thought and behaviour.

How do psychologists study the mind?

But how can we study something as complex and mysterious as the mind? Even if we were to split open the skull of a willing volunteer and have a look inside, we would only see the gloopy grey matter of the brain. We cannot see someone thinking. Nor can we observe their emotions, or memories, or perceptions and dreams. So how do psychologists go about studying the mind?

In fact, psychologists adopt a similar approach to scientists in other fields. Nuclear physicists interested in the structure of atoms cannot observe protons, electrons and neutrons directly. Instead, they predict how these elements should behave and devise experiments to confirm or refute their expectations.

Human behaviour: the raw data of psychology

In a similar way, psychologists use human behaviour as a clue to the workings of the mind. Although we cannot observe the mind directly, everything we do, think, feel and say is determined by the functioning of the mind. So psychologists take human behaviour as the raw data for testing their theories about how the mind works.

Since the German psychologist Wilhelm Wundt (1832-1920) opened the first experimental psychology lab in Leipzig in 1879, we have learned an enormous amount about the relationship between brain, mind and behaviour.

Psychology and other disciplines

Psychology lies at the intersection of many other different disciplines, including biology, medicine, linguistics, philosophy, anthropology, sociology, and artificial intelligence (AI).

For example, neuropsychology is allied with biology, since the aim is to map different areas of the brain and explain how each underpins different brain functions like memory or language. Other branches of psychology are more closely connected with medicine. Health psychologists help people manage disease and pain. Similarly, clinical psychologists help alleviate the suffering caused by mental disorders.

Branches of psychology

Any attempt to explain why humans think and behave in the way that they do will inevitably be linked to one or another branch of psychology. The different disciplines of psychology are extremely wide-ranging. They include:

• Clinical psychology
• Cognitive psychology: memory
• Cognitive psychology: intelligence
• Developmental psychology
• Evolutionary psychology
• Forensic psychology
• Health psychology
• Neuropsychology
• Occupational psychology
• Social psychology

You can learn more about these disciplines by selecting from the list of links on the right hand side of the page.

What all these different approaches to psychology have in common is a desire to explain the behaviour of individuals based on the workings of the mind. And in every area, psychologists apply scientific methodology. They formulate theories, test hypotheses through observation and experiment, and analyse the findings with statistical techniques that help them identify important findings.

MARIA AT ST MICHAEL , ST. GEORGE ROAD SINGAPORE

Ave Maria
Gratia Plena
Dominus Tecum
Benedicta tu

NOTRE DAME - SANCTUARIES LOURDES

 

CATHEDRAL MONACO

 

ST COLUMBA CHURCH - SOUTH PERTH

 

AN OLD GOTHIC CHURCH - SYDNEY

 

VIAM DOLOROSAM CIRCUM CIVI

 

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Tuhan Yesus,
semoga kami mampu menyerahkan diri
dengan sabar dan kasih
terhadap begitu banyak kematian kecil,
sehingga kesetiaan-Mu
semakin mencahayai hidup kami.
Sebagai Umat kepunyaan Allah,
kita memiliki Kristus sebagai Kepala.
Ia telah menyerahkan diri-Nya demi dosa-dosa kita.
Ia mendapatkan kembali hak kita
akan hidup ilahi bersama Allah, Bapa kita

YESUS DIHUKUM MATI

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Lalu Yesus keluar,
bermahkotakan duri dan berjubah ungu.
Maka kata Pilatus kepada mereka
"Lihatlah Manusia itu!"
Jesus therefore came forth,
bearing the crown of thorns and the purple garment.
And he saith to them: Behold the Man!
ut cognoscatis quia
in eo nullam causam invenio
et purpureum vestimentum
et dicit eis ecce homo

YESUS MEMANGGUL SALIB

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Dia telah mengosongkan diriNya sendiri
dan mengambil rupa seorang hamba,
dan menjadi sama dengan manusia
But emptied himself,
taking the form of a servant,
being made in the likeness of men,
and in habit found as a man.
sed semet ipsum exinanivit formam servi
accipiens in similitudinem hominum factus
et habitu inventus ut homo

YESUS JATUH DI BAWAH SALIB

 

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Lihat, itu hamba-Ku yang Kupegang,
orang pilihan-Ku, yang kepadanya Aku berkenan.
Aku telah menaruh Roh-Ku ke atasnya,
supaya ia menyatakan hukum kepada bangsa-bangsa.
Ia tidak akan berteriak atau menyaringkan suara
atau memperdengarkan suaranya di jalan.
Behold my servant, I will uphold him:
my elect, my soul delighteth in him:
I have given my spirit upon him,
he shall bring forth judgment to the Gentiles.
ecce servus meus suscipiam eum
electus meus conplacuit sibi
in illo anima mea dedi spiritum meum
super eum iudicium gentibus proferet
He shall not cry, nor have respect to person,
neither shall his voice be heard abroad.
non clamabit neque accipiet personam
nec audietur foris vox eius

YESUS BERTEMU DENGAN MARIA IBUNYA

 

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Acuh tak acuhkah kamu sekalian yang berlalu?
Pandanglah dan lihatlah,
apakah ada kesedihan seperti kesedihan
yang ditimpakan TUHAN kepadaku,
untuk membuat aku merana
tatkala murka-Nya menyala-nyala!Lamed.
O all ye that pass by the way, attend,
and see if there be any sorrow like to my sorrow:
for he hath made a vintage of me,
as the Lord spoke in the day of his fierce anger.
LAMED o vos omnes qui transitis per viam adtendite
et videte si est dolor sicut dolor
meus quoniam vindemiavit me ut locutus
est Dominus in die irae furoris sui

YESUS DITOLONG SIMON DARI KIRENE

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Pada waktu itu lewat seorang
yang bernama Simon, orang Kirene,
ayah Aleksander dan Rufus,
yang baru datang dari luar kota,
dan orang itu mereka paksa untuk memikul salib Yesus.
And they forced one Simon a Cyrenian,
who passed by coming out of the country,
the father of Alexander and of Rufus, to take up his cross.
et angariaverunt praetereuntem quempiam Simonem Cyreneum
venientem de villa patrem Alexandri
et Rufi ut tolleret crucem eius

VERONIKA MENGUSAPI WAJAH YESUS

 

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Ia dihina dan dihindari orang,
seorang yang penuh kesengsaraan
dan yang biasa menderita kesakitan;
ia sangat dihina,
sehingga orang menutup mukanya
terhadap dia dan bagi kitapun
dia tidak masuk hitungan.
Tetapi sesungguhnya,
penyakit kitalah yang ditanggungnya,
dan kesengsaraan kita yang dipikulnya,
padahal kita mengira dia kena tulah,
dipukul dan ditindas Allah.
Despised, and the most object of men,
a man of sorrows,
and acquainted with infirmity:
and his look was as it were hidden and despised,
whereupon we esteemed him not.
despectum et novissimum virorum virum dolorum
et scientem infirmitatem
et quasi absconditus vultus eius
et despectus unde nec reputavimus eum
Surely he hath borne our infirmities
and carried our sorrows:
and we have thought him as it were a leper,
and as one struck by God and afflicted.
vere languores nostros ipse tulit
et dolores nostros ipse portavit
et nos putavimus eum quasi leprosum
et percussum a Deo et humiliatum

YESUS JATUH KEDUA KALINYA DI BAWAH SALIB

 

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Tetapi sesungguhnya, penyakit kitalah yang ditanggungnya,
dan kesengsaraan kita yang dipikulnya,
padahal kita mengira dia kena tulah,
dipukul dan ditindas Allah.
etapi dia tertikam oleh karena pemberontakan kita,
dia diremukkan oleh karena kejahatan kita;
ganjaran yang mendatangkan keselamatan
bagi kita ditimpakan kepadanya,
dan oleh bilur-bilurnya kita menjadi sembuh.
Surely he hath borne our infirmities
and carried our sorrows:
and we have thought him as it were a leper,
and as one struck by God and afflicted.
vere languores nostros ipse tulit
et dolores nostros ipse portavit
et nos putavimus eum quasi leprosum
et percussum a Deo et humiliatum
But he was wounded for our iniquities,
he was bruised for our sins:
the chastisement of our peace was upon him,
and by his bruises we are healed.
ipse autem vulneratus est propter iniquitates
nostras adtritus est propter scelera nostra
disciplina pacis nostrae super eum
et livore eius sanati sumus

YESUS MENASIHATI WANITA-WANITA YANG MENANGIS

 

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Hai puteri - puteri Yerusalem,
janganlah kamu menangisi Aku,
melainkan tangisilah dirimu sendiri
dan anak - anakMu!